People lie. Well, that’s sort of true…can be true. But often it’s a little more complicated than that. Whatever your field or vocation, whether paid or volunteer, there are a few lies you should know when you’re the new kid on the block.
#1 I just want to be honest with you.
Don’t be naive. Some people are corrupt and don’t like you. But most people are for you, but they don’t trust you yet. So while they are honest with you, there are layers that will take time and a track record to peal away. Be patient and learn to listen for what is not said. And before you know it, you will hear more than you want to know.
#2 We are ready to move forward.
People want to accommodate the new leader and they are excited about the future. But “forward” doesn’t look the same for everyone. So be careful not to over-interpret words of support. Instead, work together to define what the new realities may look like and then move ahead together.
#3 I love what I do around here.
Many people genuinely love what they do. But sometimes people want to grow and go to the next thing, but they don’t know how to take that step without discrediting what they’ve been doing for all these years. So as a new leader we can affirm their past work, but then make it safe for them to explore the desires God has put on their heart for the next season.
#4 If God’s in it, I’m there!
Their motives are right, but people have leadership baggage. A pastor told them one time to take the mountain. They did, but he didn’t. They got hurt. So when new leaders start talking vision, we must understand that our people are listening through the filter of past experiences. Give them time. Learn from them. Love them. And then lead them.
Leaders need vision because people need a purpose and direction. But vision is a small motivator without trust. And trust takes just a little more time to build than vision takes to cast.
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